Okay. Here's the deal. Sometimes you just get in a mood and you need to snap out of it. Anybody?
First, let me be clear. I am absolutely NOT talking about those who are fighting their way through depression, anxiety, or other mental health struggles. I understand that people find themselves in some very real and challenging situations. Please know that you truly are loved, seen, valued, and admired. My heart is full of tenderness, sympathy, and love for you. I am in your corner and I am for you. If that is where you find yourself today, hang onto hope and keep seeking help.
I am simply talking about the "I woke up on the wrong side of the bed feeling."I think we know the difference ... The I just feel down, frustrated, irritated, hormonal, annoyed, overwhelmed, etc...
I recently had a day like that. Seriously, a couple of weeks ago, from the time I woke up until the time I went to bed it was just one of those days. I let every single little thing get to me.
Any other day I would have laughed at the scenarios that kept popping up, but this particular day I didn't find anything funny. (Okay, by bedtime it was starting to get funny but only because of the sheer number of things that had happened all day long.)
I was convinced the day was out to get me. Have you ever felt that way?
Have you had a day that it seemed like no matter what choice your husband made ... it was the wrong one.
Or maybe you've felt like your kids very purpose for existing was to make messes while runing through the house screaming, "Moooooommmmmm" at the top of their lungs, 5,762 times in one 24 hour period.
It's the kind of day that you suddenly see all the stuff around the house that "should" get done, and it's mocking you.
The kind of day that isn't really a two-steps forward, one step back day. It's more like a one-step forward, two steps back day. Or maybe, more truthfully, it's just a no steps forward, pushed down a flight a stairs instead day.
When you can normally roll with the punches, this particular day you're just knocked down over and over again.
Again, I'm not talking about the truly difficult things we face ... I'm talking about when we let the little things become the big things.
I hate to be the one to break it to you, but if you've ever felt this way ... it's a good sign you're in a mood. (Hopefully that's not the kind of day you're having now. Because the last thing we want on a day like that is to be told we're in a mood.)
I remember a conversation my sister and I had several years ago. We were talking about these kinds of days (she's had them too ... and I'm pretty sure we're not alone in that), and I told her, "I know I could snap out of it. I just don't."
It's like, for just a moment, I had the ability to be on the outside looking in and I knew I was in a mood.I was also suddenly aware that I had the ability to snap out of it but, instead, I was perfectly content to stay stuck.
How ridiculous is that? Why do we do that to ourselves?
I'm writing this so the next time I have one of those days I can read it ... and on the chance you find yourself having one of those days too, maybe it will be helpful to you as well.
First of all, snap out of it. Seriously. The day isn't actually out to get you - and neither is your husband or your children. Don't you feel better already?
You're letting the little things become big things. Key words: "you're" "letting". How about instead of "letting" those scenarios dictate your day ... you rise above and "let" yourself make a better choice. You can choose how the day is going to play out. Your response is your responsibility.
Write down ten things you're thankful for and make sure two or three of them are things that were annoying you a minute ago. Turn "grrrr" into "grateful." That mess of laundry that needs to be dealt with? Thankful for the clothes we have. Those kiddos who say "Moooooommmm" 5,762 times a day? They are gifts. Make the list. Do it now. Gratitude changes things.
If you have to ... call your sister and say, "Tell me to snap out of it." (It's okay if you need a push in the right direction).
Laugh. Turn into the tickle monster and go attack your kiddos. Just watching them squeal and laugh will make you laugh! "A cheerful heart is good like a medicine." (Proverbs 17:22)
Change your mind about your day! Remind yourself of truth. Get in the Word. "This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it!" (Psalm 118:24)
Let's not stay stuck, friends. Don't let circumstances (even on those crazy days) turn you into someone you don't want to be. Be who God created you to be and snap out of that place!